The Ugly Truth is one of the most refreshingly honest dating films since What Women Want – but this time, the topic is about what MEN want. This is one of those rare date movies that both men and women are talking about – and with good reason. It just may touch on some truths.
Abby Richter, played by Katherine Heigl, is a romantically challenged morning show producer in Sacramento. Mike Chadway, played by Gerard Butler, is her new male chauvinist talent. As much as it kills her, his testosterone-driven advice makes him a new superstar and helps re-spark flames of passion for many couples. Reluctantly, Abby admits that Mike may be able to help her land her dream guy; a doctor named Colin.
This is where the fun begins. So now I give to you Mike Chadway’s “Truth’s for Women to Date By”, as interpreted by yours truly, Mark Edward Davis of International Dating for Men.com:
Mike’s Truth #1: Courting is About Lust, Seduction, and Manipulation
Abby is adamant that the pursuit of her dream man is about love, “Colin is a man who knows about love; which obviously you know nothing of.”
Mike retorts, "What I do know about is lust, seduction, and manipulation; things of which you know nothing of."
What is the truth? The truth is that both people want first-impressions to communicate that:
· They are comfortable in their own skin,
· That they already lead a successful life,
· But that they are interested in getting to know the other person.
As detestable as it may seem; the ways that you communicate these three points are manipulated and calculating. Courting is a game of controlled disclosure; but that’s necessary. How can that be true? It’s true because more disclosure is given only as trust is earned. That is just self-respect. It’s not a game. Those are healthy boundaries.
But, with all of that pushing back, how do you keep him coming toward you? Mike has that answer up next.
Mike’s Truth #2: Ladies, You Need to be both the Stripper and the Librarian
I can’t help but agree with that one. I’ve said it myself that I wanted a woman who could go mountain climbing, look elegant at a social event, and be the vixen behind closed doors. Ladies, isn’t that who you want to be as well?
Mike’s Truth #3: You Have to Like Yourself if You Expect Anyone Else to Like You
How can you argue with that? He goes on to say that you have to feel sexy in order to be sexually attractive. This is why we sometimes describe a particular woman as radiant. It comes from a state of feeling beautiful. Do what it takes for you to feel beautiful.
Check back here or at InternationalDatingForMen.com to catch Part 2 of this article where we’ll look at Mike’s last four “truths”:
· Laugh at all of his jokes
· Don’t complain or talk about your problems
· Men are only interested in sex and beauty
· Women are control freaks
The real-life insights behind these “truths” may be The Ugly Truth. You’ll have to judge that for yourself.
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Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Monday, August 3, 2009
The Ugly Truth Movie: 7 Truths About Men - Part 2
The movie The Ugly Truth touched on real life battle-of-the-sexes issues with no holds barred. Gerard Butler’s character, Mike Chadway breaks into some touchy topics with such a storm of audacity and candor you can’t help but laugh.
Ladies, we’re going to be taking material from the movie and letting you in on some guy secrets.
In Part 1 of this article, we talked about the first three truths about men from Mike Chadway. Now, here are the last four “truths” from Mike C., as interpreted by me, Mark Edward Davis:
Mike’s Truth #4: Laugh at All of His Jokes
That may sound like a fake and shallow effort to feed his ego, but I’d like to offer you an alternate perspective. When anyone tells a joke; understand that they’re taking a social risk of rejection.
These are unique moments when even shy people get to be center stage; if only for the time it takes to tell that joke. I always laugh and enjoy their moment, even if I’d heard the joke before. Regardless of who you’re with; you’ll score points by laughing at their jokes. Mike has a valid point here.
Mike’s Truth #5: Don’t Complain or Talk About Your Problems
To watch this movie and see how badly the leading lady, Abby Richter, played by Katherine Heigl, interacts with her dates, it makes you want to leave the table yourself! She complains about the water and then cross examines her date as if he was there for a job interview.
The truth in the ‘don’t complain’ mandate is really about attitude. Vince Lombardi, a legendary football coach, said, “When you’re winning; nothing hurts. When you’re losing; everything hurts.” If a guy hears energy and optimism in your attitude; he knows he’s with someone who loves life. When he hears complaining and problems, it tells him he’s with someone who does not love life. Sorry for that bit of Ugly Truth, but that’s just the way guys are going to read it.
Mike’s Truth #6: Men are only interested in sex and beauty
Just today my wife and I were having a conversation with a mid-twenty something woman who said, “The movie confirmed that men have an order of importance when looking at a woman: body, face, and then mind.” Well, if you’re talking about first impressions, that’s true.
But that’s kind of like saying I noticed the peacock’s feathers before its head. Isn’t that the point of beauty – to attract attention? Once you’ve started a conversation with a man he can become fascinated with you. However, if you want that guy to come over and have that conversation then you’ll need to be attractive – and most women know how to be attractive with what they were given.
Mike’s Truth # 7: Women are Control Freaks
As my wife pointed out; women may have been given this tendency by God so they can be protective mothers. That may be true for mothering, but if you treat guys that way; you’ll only attract the immature ones. Learn to be fascinated with how men lead and go with it. Have a little adventure.
The dirty little secret is that men are looking for women to appreciate the way they lead. The slightest words of encouragement will buy you more than you can imagine. He’ll want to stay around to hear more words of praise and admiration.
If you are trying to attract a man, don’t you want to know how he thinks and what he’s looking for? Thanks to The Ugly Truth, many guy secrets are now out in the open. And, honestly, they’re hoping you were taking notes.
Ladies, we’re going to be taking material from the movie and letting you in on some guy secrets.
In Part 1 of this article, we talked about the first three truths about men from Mike Chadway. Now, here are the last four “truths” from Mike C., as interpreted by me, Mark Edward Davis:
Mike’s Truth #4: Laugh at All of His Jokes
That may sound like a fake and shallow effort to feed his ego, but I’d like to offer you an alternate perspective. When anyone tells a joke; understand that they’re taking a social risk of rejection.
These are unique moments when even shy people get to be center stage; if only for the time it takes to tell that joke. I always laugh and enjoy their moment, even if I’d heard the joke before. Regardless of who you’re with; you’ll score points by laughing at their jokes. Mike has a valid point here.
Mike’s Truth #5: Don’t Complain or Talk About Your Problems
To watch this movie and see how badly the leading lady, Abby Richter, played by Katherine Heigl, interacts with her dates, it makes you want to leave the table yourself! She complains about the water and then cross examines her date as if he was there for a job interview.
The truth in the ‘don’t complain’ mandate is really about attitude. Vince Lombardi, a legendary football coach, said, “When you’re winning; nothing hurts. When you’re losing; everything hurts.” If a guy hears energy and optimism in your attitude; he knows he’s with someone who loves life. When he hears complaining and problems, it tells him he’s with someone who does not love life. Sorry for that bit of Ugly Truth, but that’s just the way guys are going to read it.
Mike’s Truth #6: Men are only interested in sex and beauty
Just today my wife and I were having a conversation with a mid-twenty something woman who said, “The movie confirmed that men have an order of importance when looking at a woman: body, face, and then mind.” Well, if you’re talking about first impressions, that’s true.
But that’s kind of like saying I noticed the peacock’s feathers before its head. Isn’t that the point of beauty – to attract attention? Once you’ve started a conversation with a man he can become fascinated with you. However, if you want that guy to come over and have that conversation then you’ll need to be attractive – and most women know how to be attractive with what they were given.
Mike’s Truth # 7: Women are Control Freaks
As my wife pointed out; women may have been given this tendency by God so they can be protective mothers. That may be true for mothering, but if you treat guys that way; you’ll only attract the immature ones. Learn to be fascinated with how men lead and go with it. Have a little adventure.
The dirty little secret is that men are looking for women to appreciate the way they lead. The slightest words of encouragement will buy you more than you can imagine. He’ll want to stay around to hear more words of praise and admiration.
If you are trying to attract a man, don’t you want to know how he thinks and what he’s looking for? Thanks to The Ugly Truth, many guy secrets are now out in the open. And, honestly, they’re hoping you were taking notes.
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