Home Run Dates - Part 3 - What To Do

OK, Guys:

This is the day you've been waiting for! Today I will share with
you the FORMULA for creating Home Run dates.

Since I'm a picture and structure guy, I'm going to give you a
four point outline (each starting with the letter "A") and
examples from movies to illustrate the points.

The four points in my formula for Home Run dates are these:

1. Atmosphere
2. Actors
3. Angle
4. Action

The atmosphere is about setting the stage. Is this elegant
dining or a sports event? The atmosphere dictates the other
three components.

The actors are the highest leverage component and the most
overlooked. Remember my story of using the doorman at the
hotel? Using people who can help make the date unique are of
huge significance. It creates a sense of mystery for the woman,
and builds HUGE credibility for you. She'll be thinking, "Who
is this guy who can get all of these people to do this for him?"

The angle is a unique twist that you mix in. It may be some
special privilege you have from people you know, or it can be
something you can get by simply tipping someone to accommodate you.

Examples of unique angles would be box seats at a concert or
sporting event; the president's table at a fancy restaurant, or
access to a rooftop on a high-rise building that has a
spectacular view no one else gets to see.

Finally, there needs to be some action. This can be as simple
as taking the scenic drive in the limo after dinner, walking
along the riverfront (which is so common in movies), or actually
engaging in something physically challenging.

Let me provide another example from the movie "Hitch" and show
you how each of these are integrated into the date. The first
date Hitch sets up with his girl begins with a messenger
arriving at her cubical with a package. She goes through
several steps in order to set the stage for the date. The
messenger is the "Actor" in this date.

Next, she meets Hitch at the waterfront to ride jet skis with
him. That is both "Atmosphere" and a unique "Action". They
ride to Ellis Island where he has arranged for an exclusive tour
and set up a page in the log showing her great grandfather's
signature from when he arrived. That's the "Angle" and the
guard there is yet another "Actor" in his date. Even though
everything didn't impact her the way he anticipated; she was
impressed because of his creativity and effort.

Another movie example is from "Kate & Leopold". In his date, he
had her brother tell her to meet him on the roof of the apartment
building. He lined the path with candles, cooked the meal
himself, set a gorgeous place setting for two, and hired
violinists to serenade his event. This is a simple, yet
elegant, example of using all four components.

Let's put a date together right now. In this scenario, let's
set up a fancy dinner. When you ask her out, let her know what
restaurant you had in mind and simply set a time to pick her up.

Now, arrange your actors. I'd hire a limousine to pick her up.
As a twist to add mystery, let's say you are not in the car, but
the driver is instructed to tell her that you are finishing
preparations for your date and will meet her at the restaurant
(which he says by name).

Have the limo driver call when they are pulling up and set your
next actors in motion. Have the valet, host, or someone else,
prepared to open her door, greet her by name, and tell her that
your table is ready and that you are there waiting for her.
Have him escort her to your table - hopefully a private table if
possible - and stand up as she approaches. Tell her she looks
wonderful and offer a flower.

Next the manager comes to the table to offer his personal
greeting and the rest of the dinner is now your stage. You are
still the director of this play. At the end of dinner, have one
of the actors call the driver to be ready at the curb; waiting
for you. The last ingredient would be some kind of action.

Taking a walk in a special place where you could take in a
beautiful view would be a great conclusion.

You know you've just ruined her for every other guy she'll ever
date - every other date will be a distant second place to yours
- and we're really OK with that.

Tomorrow, we'll put the pieces together on how these touch her
core desires and contrast going on these kinds of dates here and
abroad.

Be the man for her and come join the party!

Mark "The Ambassador" Davis
International Dating for Men