Hey, Guys:
I hope you're ready to receive some gold! Knowing what I'm about to tell you will take your dating game to a whole new level. I’m talking about out-of-the-ball-park-home-run dates! And these are things you can do this week with a date here at home!
In my upcoming book, "Mastering the Adventure of International Dating" I spend two chapters on understanding men and women, what they want, and how they are influenced by cultural differences.
Even though I spent nearly 15% of the book on the topic, it only scratched the surface. I'm going to try to deliver as much value as I can for you in four emails - most of these specific tips are not in the book so don't miss any of these.
Let's talk about what women want. There are three core desires in every woman's heart. Knowing these will help you be more affective in winning her heart. Her first desire is to be pursued. I'll get to the other two core desires in other emails.
The first of these deep desires of hers is to be pursued; as in fought for, worthy of extra effort, and a feeling that someone wants to get to really know her.
So what does that look like in dating? You might be wondering, "Do I have to start a fight with someone for her?" Maybe not a physical fight, but gestures to show you are mindful to protect her are golden. Think of the movie "Hitch". Remember the first date of our chubby hero in the art gallery?
There was a scene in the movie where two completely arrogant art snobs try to hold our hero and his date hostage while they dribble on about their theories and then ask him questions to make him look out of touch. In a wonderful and daring twist, he switches the subject and asks them a sports question leaving them stunned and silent. He then excuses the two of them away and they move on – laughing quietly to themselves. Brilliant.
Defending her isn't usually about fist fights, but if you protect and defend your space together, she may just feel like you went to battle for her.
Another aspect of pursuing her is trying to get to know her beyond surface chatter. Show her that she is fascinating to you and that you are curious to hear more about her world.
However, the easiest way to touch her heart is by creating dates that show you feel she is worthy of extra effort. In fact, I'm going to spend the third email this week on just that topic; so you'll have specific ideas on how to hit that date out of the park.
In closing the email today; I want to give you a simple personal example of my own to show how this can work for you.
My wife and I had finished dinner at a fantastic restaurant in a downtown San Francisco hotel. Parking was brutal in that area and I had to park in a garage three blocks down. My wife had exquisite new high heel boots on and I didn't want to put her through more pain by walking with me. I gave her instructions to wait in the center lobby and I'd simply pull up, call her on my phone when I was there, and have her meet me out front.
As I walked out and observed the entrance, I could tell that this hotel would have zero tolerance for waiting at the entrance, so I got an idea.
I would tip the doorman to work with me on a simple plan. I pulled up in front, but to a place where my wife couldn't see the car. Immediately, the doorman started toward me - thinking he was going to tell me to move on.
With a $20 in my hand, I told him that my wife was waiting in the center of the lobby. I wanted him to go up to her and say, "Mrs. Davis? Your car and husband are waiting for you out front. May I escort you to him?" I told him to also say, "It was easy to find you. Mr. Davis said to just look for the most beautiful woman in the room." He walked up to her, in his tuxedo and doorman's uniform, and executed the plan like a master.
Grand Slam. Out of the park. World Series. Home Run.
She was emotional Jello and rewarded me handsomely when we got home.
Next we'll talk about the Number One Rule of Dating that must be obeyed or the whole pursuing thing will be turned upside down. Talk to you tomorrow!
Come join the party,
Mark "The Ambassador" Davis
International Dating for Men
Have you ever wished you had a gorgeous woman in your life who loved you for being a man and loved you with all the energy she could give? This is going to blow your mind. They are out there and waiting for you. We'll talk about the path, the pitfalls, and the rewards. We'll talk about what it means to be a man in other cultures. You'll discover love and beauty that will make you the envy of all of your friends - and she'll probably have an adorable accent too!
