Hey, Guys,
As you'll recall from the last blog, I told you I'd share with you the Number One Rule in Dating - and that violating this rule can turn all of your efforts upside down.
This is going to sound simple, but I will explain why it is so critical.
The Number One Rule in Dating is this: The date is your experience before it's hers.
In essence, when you ask a woman out on a date, you are giving her an invitation to join you in your experience. This also fits with her second core desire, which is this: A woman wants to be caught up into an adventure.
I don't have enough time in an email to fully develop thisthought, but this is about posture, your enjoyment, and touching on a desire in a woman's heart.
First, let's talk about why this has to be about your experience. It has to do with the Law of Radiant Attraction. The term 'radiant' has to do with an energy field. In this case, you have an energy that people want to feel. Have you ever been around someone that made you just want to be around them even more? Chances are good that they were simply having a great time doing what they were doing and everyone wants to be part of the party.
In this instance, you are the party. Imagine that you are looking forward to doing whatever you have planned for this date - and that you'd have a great time doing it by yourself or with anyone else for that matter.
Picture the kind of dynamic in this story. You have a friend tell you he just won great tickets to a hot concern from a radio station and he wants to know if you'd join him. If you couldn't go, he'd still go and probably make friends with the others around him and have stories to tell that will make you wish you had gone.
That's what the Number One Rule in Dating feels like. You are going to be doing something you enjoy and wanted to know if the woman you're talking to would like to join you. Once you have this mindset, you will enjoy your evening; even if you don't have a great connection with the woman you're out with. Your zone of good energy is not subject to being burst by anyone - and it will be radiantly attractive.
The part that makes this further attractive to the women is that too many guys make the woman the center of the date. That kind of woman worship does not take her away on an adventure. She wants to be taken away into a story that she doesn't know - one that is about your experience - one that puts you in charge of writing the epic and may have surprises for her along the way.
Does this rule sound selfish? It isn't. Dates are about creating experiences and moments of escape from the mundane. It's your magic carpet. You'll enjoy the ride with or without her. This posture helps her relax. Now she knows she doesn't have to be on guard that your only agenda may be sexual conquest. In fact, she may be the one advancing on you. Nice turn about, aye?
Next we'll talk about how to take 'your experience' and tweak it to blow her mind!
The party has just begun!
Mark "The Ambassador" Davis
International Dating for Men
Have you ever wished you had a gorgeous woman in your life who loved you for being a man and loved you with all the energy she could give? This is going to blow your mind. They are out there and waiting for you. We'll talk about the path, the pitfalls, and the rewards. We'll talk about what it means to be a man in other cultures. You'll discover love and beauty that will make you the envy of all of your friends - and she'll probably have an adorable accent too!
