"The Dinner Social" - A New Event for Romance Tours Overseas

Continually working to create the ultimate personalized experience that will deliver the best possible opportunity for your success in finding your ULTIMATE match sometimes produces a few great ideas.  The "Dinner Social" event is certainly one of them!

The Dinner Social does not take the place of the speed dating event, but provides a more relaxed and intimate environment.  International dating doesn't have to be hard.  It should be fun and relaxed and natural.  Dream Connections delivers.

Watch the new video and see the photos from the recent Dinner Social event on The Quest Tour Experience:

http://youtu.be/DD5HPeiKss0

Get on their list for their free 10-Day video series: "Find Your ULTIMATE Match" at http://www.DreamConnections.com

Romance Tour Report

It's been an amazing journey. I never thought I'd be taking groups of men overseas to experience international dating and foreign romance, but it has become an immensely rewarding experience as we see new couple after couple find each other.

The new site is nearly complete and I can't wait to hear your thoughts about it: http://www.DreamConnections.com.

This is also my first test post using the app on my iPhone.

Why Competition Between Foreign Women Breeds Excellence

In the study of Economics you will learn that competition within a market will bring about better products at lower prices for the consumer. The basic principal behind this is that competition breeds excellence. It’s true in the business world, it’s true in nature, and it’s also true in our dating environments.

The truth about this world is that not all dating environments are created equal. Some regions and countries drastically favor men, while other drastically favor women. There are many economic and cultural forces at play which result in these pro-male and pro-female environments. Countries such as Canada, U.K., Australia, New Zealand, Germany, and United States are pro-female or anti-male regions. Often in my book I distinguish between these two regions by calling them Upper and Lower tiers, based on their economic classification.

If you’re dating just about anywhere in the U.S. you’ll be competing for women but with handicaps. This extreme competition among men will force you to improve yourself or be left out of the race. While there are many men who just can’t hang with the big boys in this rat race, there are plenty of willing competitors and this breeds an army of eligible bachelors in a tough dating environment for men. For any woman in this dating environment practically everything is in their favor. Any attractive girl in this pro-female environment will have everything practically handed to her, and the lack of obstacles for the women causes them to be complacent. Many gain wieght, they don’t take care of themselves, and many of them don’t’ improve themselves because they know or feel that the handicaps are not on them, but on the men. This is the ying, now it’s time to look at the yang.

All you have to do is reverse this scenario when you look at places like Eastern Europe, Latin America and South East Asia. These regions are pro-male regions, and regions of the world where the intense competition is not between the males, but between the females. For this reason foreign women tend to put more time into staying in shape, and into their looks. They put more effort into keeping their men happy, and more effort into flirting and getting a man. While it’s almost impossible to find an very attractive American girl who will act needy towards you, it’s almost commonplace to run into this in these foreign regions where women have to climb “up hill.” The truth is that if you want to find the best dating pools in the world you have to go to places where the women are competing for the men, and these places are South East Asia, Latin America, and Eastern Europe.

Secret Lives of Women TV Segment Reveals International Dating from the Foreign Women’s Perspective

Before a single interview was filmed, WeTV’s editors decided to create a segment they would call “Mail Order Brides”. But what does that mean?

Men who traveled overseas to meet women have often been chided with, “What are you doing – trying to find a mail order bride?” Yet people with any common sense understand that you can’t order a human being through the mail. How is it that this 150-year-old phrase still remains a part of western culture vocabulary?

It may be acceptable to criticize men for going overseas to find love, but what happens when a women’s television network does a show featuring the foreign women’s stories? A drastically different perspective unfolds.

As millions of TV’s viewers were glued to their screens on Tuesday night, many watched WeTV’s “Secret Lives of Women” and heard things they had never considered before. A clear case was made that women from other countries have valid and intelligent reasons for looking abroad.

“With over 3 ½ million more women than men in the Ukraine, women are looking elsewhere to find love”, said the female commentator.

You can view two trailers from this episode at: www.YouTube.com/iDatingforMen

“Men in Ukraine aren’t bad here. There are good men, but they aren’t looking for long term relationships”, said, Anna, a 21-year old woman now married to Mark, a man from Sacramento, California.

That appeared to be the common theme. Men have too many choices overseas and have less motivation to settle down. So what do these women do to find family-oriented men? They sign up with “Marriage agencies” in hopes that they can help them connect with good foreign men through this form of international dating.

“Marriage agencies are popular here,” said Nastya, an 18 year old Ukrainian woman. “When women here get to interact with foreign men they are very excited. American men have made a good impression on me.”

“In my opinion, American men are smart people – intellectual people”, said another 18 year old woman names Valaria. “They seem to immediately understand what girls want.”

So how does East meet West? The agencies facilitate international dating through letter correspondence and personal meetings. In this segment, crews followed a social gathering where 200 women came to a party, but only 25 foreign men were available for introductions.

The reactions were mixed. Many women were obviously disappointed that there weren’t more men. Others experienced cultural clashes as some of the men tried to impress them with their lives in America.

“Some men wanted to impress me. They’d show me pictures and say look at my house or my car. I don’t care about houses or cars or money. If I like you, I’m going to like you”, declared Anna. “Maybe some women are after money, but I was after a husband.”

Nastya and Valaria attended the social, but weren’t approached by any of the men until right at the end. They didn’t find what they were hoping for, but said they would certainly like to try again.

WeTV says this about themselves, “Available in nearly 74 million homes, WE tv's programming offers viewers compelling perspectives on women`s lives ranging from the ordinary to the extraordinary, presented in a non-judgmental voice.”

This segment appeared to deliver on that pledge. It may very well have been the first program ever to provide such a non-judgmental voice on behalf of these women. Perhaps a new day and new tone has been set for dialog about the true story – the human story – that is international dating.

Boy Meets Girl and East Meets West - Where's the Controversy?

Everyone wants to think that they are enlightened and open minded. Everyone believes that we should bridge gaps with nations all around our global village. That is, until they hear that a friend wants to date someone from another country – then everything changes. Why?

How could something as simple as a man and woman finding each other be so maligned? If you were to tell your friends that you were going to a singles dating event in another city, there would be nothing wrong with that. But if a guy tells his family or friends that he wants to go on a singles introduction tour in another country – watch out! Here come the conformity police!

For those of us who ventured abroad to find love we have been warned that all of these women just want to take our money and get green cards. Not only are we told that these women have ill motives – our motives are brought into question as well. “What’s wrong with America?” we are asked. “You can’t find a girl in this entire country who will take you? Are you looking for something kinky?” The women overseas experience something very similar. Mothers warn their daughters of men who will love them and leave them stranded in a foreign land with no money and no way home. They are told to watch out for the slave trade and men who are looking to imprison them.

With all of that drama coming from people who haven’t dated overseas, it’s no wonder that few venture out.

But for those who do, the story of boy meets girl and east meets west is filled with adventure and joy. It is very much like Romeo and Juliet, but with a very happy ending.

I went on one of those introduction dating tours to the Ukraine and met the most incredible woman in the world, Anna Astafieva. As Anna and I celebrate three years of being together, we have come to realize that, even though we come from different cultures, we are more alike than we are different. We are more in love with each passing day and our passion for life continues to grow.

I’m grateful that I did not listen to the critics. I believe that the greatest rewards in life will always go to the risk-takers. For those who have not found their soul mate here – it may be because she is waiting overseas.

We embrace the variety this world has to offer and support the efforts of those willing to bridge cultures and countries in pursuit of love.

Mark & Anna Davis

The Ugly Truth Movie: 7 Truths About Men - Part 1

The Ugly Truth is one of the most refreshingly honest dating films since What Women Want – but this time, the topic is about what MEN want. This is one of those rare date movies that both men and women are talking about – and with good reason. It just may touch on some truths.

Abby Richter, played by Katherine Heigl, is a romantically challenged morning show producer in Sacramento. Mike Chadway, played by Gerard Butler, is her new male chauvinist talent. As much as it kills her, his testosterone-driven advice makes him a new superstar and helps re-spark flames of passion for many couples. Reluctantly, Abby admits that Mike may be able to help her land her dream guy; a doctor named Colin.

This is where the fun begins. So now I give to you Mike Chadway’s “Truth’s for Women to Date By”, as interpreted by yours truly, Mark Edward Davis of International Dating for Men.com:

Mike’s Truth #1: Courting is About Lust, Seduction, and Manipulation

Abby is adamant that the pursuit of her dream man is about love, “Colin is a man who knows about love; which obviously you know nothing of.”

Mike retorts, "What I do know about is lust, seduction, and manipulation; things of which you know nothing of."

What is the truth? The truth is that both people want first-impressions to communicate that:

· They are comfortable in their own skin,
· That they already lead a successful life,
· But that they are interested in getting to know the other person.

As detestable as it may seem; the ways that you communicate these three points are manipulated and calculating. Courting is a game of controlled disclosure; but that’s necessary. How can that be true? It’s true because more disclosure is given only as trust is earned. That is just self-respect. It’s not a game. Those are healthy boundaries.

But, with all of that pushing back, how do you keep him coming toward you? Mike has that answer up next.

Mike’s Truth #2: Ladies, You Need to be both the Stripper and the Librarian

I can’t help but agree with that one. I’ve said it myself that I wanted a woman who could go mountain climbing, look elegant at a social event, and be the vixen behind closed doors. Ladies, isn’t that who you want to be as well?

Mike’s Truth #3: You Have to Like Yourself if You Expect Anyone Else to Like You

How can you argue with that? He goes on to say that you have to feel sexy in order to be sexually attractive. This is why we sometimes describe a particular woman as radiant. It comes from a state of feeling beautiful. Do what it takes for you to feel beautiful.

Check back here or at InternationalDatingForMen.com to catch Part 2 of this article where we’ll look at Mike’s last four “truths”:

· Laugh at all of his jokes
· Don’t complain or talk about your problems
· Men are only interested in sex and beauty
· Women are control freaks

The real-life insights behind these “truths” may be The Ugly Truth. You’ll have to judge that for yourself.

The Ugly Truth Movie: 7 Truths About Men - Part 2

The movie The Ugly Truth touched on real life battle-of-the-sexes issues with no holds barred. Gerard Butler’s character, Mike Chadway breaks into some touchy topics with such a storm of audacity and candor you can’t help but laugh.

Ladies, we’re going to be taking material from the movie and letting you in on some guy secrets.

In Part 1 of this article, we talked about the first three truths about men from Mike Chadway. Now, here are the last four “truths” from Mike C., as interpreted by me, Mark Edward Davis:

Mike’s Truth #4: Laugh at All of His Jokes

That may sound like a fake and shallow effort to feed his ego, but I’d like to offer you an alternate perspective. When anyone tells a joke; understand that they’re taking a social risk of rejection.

These are unique moments when even shy people get to be center stage; if only for the time it takes to tell that joke. I always laugh and enjoy their moment, even if I’d heard the joke before. Regardless of who you’re with; you’ll score points by laughing at their jokes. Mike has a valid point here.

Mike’s Truth #5: Don’t Complain or Talk About Your Problems

To watch this movie and see how badly the leading lady, Abby Richter, played by Katherine Heigl, interacts with her dates, it makes you want to leave the table yourself! She complains about the water and then cross examines her date as if he was there for a job interview.

The truth in the ‘don’t complain’ mandate is really about attitude. Vince Lombardi, a legendary football coach, said, “When you’re winning; nothing hurts. When you’re losing; everything hurts.” If a guy hears energy and optimism in your attitude; he knows he’s with someone who loves life. When he hears complaining and problems, it tells him he’s with someone who does not love life. Sorry for that bit of Ugly Truth, but that’s just the way guys are going to read it.

Mike’s Truth #6: Men are only interested in sex and beauty

Just today my wife and I were having a conversation with a mid-twenty something woman who said, “The movie confirmed that men have an order of importance when looking at a woman: body, face, and then mind.” Well, if you’re talking about first impressions, that’s true.

But that’s kind of like saying I noticed the peacock’s feathers before its head. Isn’t that the point of beauty – to attract attention? Once you’ve started a conversation with a man he can become fascinated with you. However, if you want that guy to come over and have that conversation then you’ll need to be attractive – and most women know how to be attractive with what they were given.

Mike’s Truth # 7: Women are Control Freaks

As my wife pointed out; women may have been given this tendency by God so they can be protective mothers. That may be true for mothering, but if you treat guys that way; you’ll only attract the immature ones. Learn to be fascinated with how men lead and go with it. Have a little adventure.

The dirty little secret is that men are looking for women to appreciate the way they lead. The slightest words of encouragement will buy you more than you can imagine. He’ll want to stay around to hear more words of praise and admiration.

If you are trying to attract a man, don’t you want to know how he thinks and what he’s looking for? Thanks to The Ugly Truth, many guy secrets are now out in the open. And, honestly, they’re hoping you were taking notes.